We suffer more in imagination than in reality.
Overthinking has always been the worst part of me. When I’m in a relationship for instance, I always overthink and make wild assumptions, and most of the time, I realize 95.8% of my assumptions are wrong.
You see, the problem is, when you overthink, you imagine a lot and then you start justifying these imaginations with stories.
When I overthink the very small insignificant things, I end up with not just a “1-hour movie” of events I have assumed, but enough to form a seasonal movie. That’s how bad I overthink and my relationships never lasted.
Same applied to my business life. Believe it or not, most people think I am a smart Gee *wink* 🙂 and because of that, lots of people approached me with business ideas. But as usual, the over-thinker that I am, will think and overthink the idea, find lots of loop holes and somewhere along the line, won’t even execute at all. I’ve been approached with over 10 very good business ideas right from high school through to tertiary and even just last 3 months, another friend approached me with a new idea which we’ve still not executed.
You see, there will always be reasons why something won’t work. Think about the idea of a smartphone.. don’t you think somewhere during the idea stage of making the smartphone, the creators must have thought; “What if someone steals it? The customer would waste his money if the device is stolen.” and that, it wasn’t a good idea? Think about a car, don’t you think in the development phase, the creators thought of it having a crash and killing loads of people, hence, thought it was not a good product to make in the first place, despite the benefits.
Lets take Uber or Airbnb. Imagine the risk involved in picking up a random stranger (In the case of the drivers) or sitting inside a private car (in the case of riders) with no knowledge of who the driver is. Is that not enough to stop the idea from coming to light? Airbnb got people renting out spaces of their homes to total strangers. Imagine the risk in that.
Most of us have ideas but we find lots of reasons and excuses and never get to execute them. Sometimes we even feel our product is not good enough to come to the lime light in the first place so we hold back, we keep adding things and making things doper before we start the mega launch. I have a friend who is really good at programming… I always ask her to start something for herself and she’s always holding back. She’ll give me 10 million reasons why she won’t be able to and I always wonder but I realized I’m just like that and probably, most of us are too.
We have things we wanna do, we have girls we wanna approach, we have moves we wanna make, we have big men we want to go see, each and everyone of us has something we wanna do but we overthink and find lots of reasons why it won’t work or how bad things can get if we shoot our shot.
Sometimes you gotta just act. Just start. Just make the move. Just take an action without you overthinking how bad it can get.
One day, I wanted to seek permission from my boss to be absent for 2 weeks but I was so scared she would reject me. A week passed and I had still not made any move. Everyday I thought about it, I came up with worst case scenarios and loads of what ifs that stopped me. Then one day, it happened that I had to go see her and while my usual overthinking-self was bringing up negative things to stop me, I moved my body to her office and spoke without thinking and funny enough it was as easy as ABC. She said yes and just asked me to send a mail. I came out of her office and you have no idea the smile I had on my face…. like hell! It took me over a week you know.
So sometimes you know there are lots of things that won’t work right, but just start. Just act. Just do it like Nike would say. Just do it. Yes I was scared, yes my mind was feeding me with lots of bad vibe but I just picked my body up from that chair and moved to my boss’ office and spoke anyway.
Ever since, when I’m approaching anything like this, I’m more confident to just act. After all, what?
Let’s take starting this blog for instance, I really had lots and lots of reasons not to start. But I just started anyway, and I’m so happy about it even though the views ain’t much at the moment. I’m just glad I ignored my overthinking-self and just started.
See, just approach that girl anyway. Maybe you want to get some money, perfume, own some car before you shoot your shot, see when you get that perfume, you’ll start thinking of getting another perfume instead and you’ll keep delaying yourself by the time you realize the lady will be engaged . Just do it. The idea may be in its skeleton form, just start anyway. Why do you think apps even update themselves? Update means what, an upgrade. Start and find ways of getting better bit by bit. Facebook never started out as a platform for the whole world. It started as a community platform for just Harvard. But when they started rolling out, they got inspired to do more and even now, they are still doing more and upgrading. Just start and keep upgrading. The Benz before and the Benz now are never the same. You can see a significant change. The coke bottle before and the coke bottle now ain’t the same. iPhone before and iPhone now, ain’t the same. You just have to stop overthinking and start. You may not have a master plan, roll out anyway. When you fail, it’s not a bad thing. Anybody who said failure is bad/negative is ignorant. Failure is for learning. We learn from it and that’s how we improve.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right”
I hope you find that courage to start whatever you’ve been holding back.